Virodhi

svagyanam prapaka gyanam prapya gyanam mumukshubhi:
each Jeevan needs to know 3 things – svagyanam (about self), prapya (what is to be achieved) and prapaka gyanam (vazhi)…
the main virodhi is ourselves whose anaadhi kalam papa will fuel these 13 virodhis and block our pursuit.. (bharatam)
Only when we clarify ourselves can we pursue the original pursuit.  HE has given us plenty of guidelines how to surmount and remove these obstacles.

1. Kaamam born out of “icchai / viruppam” and fuelled by our “anubhavam”.  Way to overcome – “stay away”. 
Kaamam – it is nothing but icchai / viruppam - that by itself is not virodhi.  But when we start dwelling on that icchai and viruppam and decide to pursue it is fuelled.  Hence this icchai / viruppam is born out of sankalpa prabhava:  It further grows on us as we fuel the fire of that icchai and start anubhavam of the same.  The best way to remove this obstacle is to “stay away” that is not engage ourselves in any of the objects of desire.  Why – goes back to the first statement that this is against our original pursuit of svagyanam, prapaka gyanam prapya gyanam aka Swaroopa virodham. There can be an argument that once we have experienced it enough we can then overcome this ichai.  But this is not true.  Eg Yayati borrowed the youth from Puru but could never overcome.  Finally on realising the futility of it he returns.. Krishna says thus – “vishaya: vinivarthanthe nirAhArasya dhEhinaha”
For sake of brevity  shall give bullet points for the other as follows : what it is -> born out of? -> how it grows -> how to overcome
2. Krodham – born out of lobham – fuelled further by dosha darshanam – can be overcome by kshama
Lobham is “pErAsai” – ie eyeing others wealth = para dravya abhilasha leading to frustration when not able to get and hence get angry.  This can also be fuelled by finding fault tendency with others.  To overcome we need to develop “kshama” forgiveness.  Remember “Kshamaya pritivi samaha” when talking about sri Rama kalyana gunangal.  Sri Ram is the repository of all the Kalyanagunas
To elaborate the Gita sloka – Rajo guna is the main reason for this which is fuelled by our “ahara niyamam”. 
3. Lobham – is para dravya abhilasha – born out of agyanam (that none of the dravyam belongs to us, we all belong to him – HE is swami, we are his “sotthu”.  How does this grow ? When we associate ourselves in “loukikam” and remain in their company this is fuelled.  The way to overcome is to remove ourselves from the loukikam as all wealth is “alpam + asthiram”
4. Moham – means mistake in identifying – born out of “dehatma abhimanam” ie mistaking our body to be atma and hence stuck with pursuing all that body desires keeping the atma ill nourished.  This is agyanam.  WE further fuel this by our “karya Avrithi” – that is keep doing it repeatedly.  Eg when we do not follow ekadasi and bring up some logic / alibi to support this logic and question the very practice (some questions come up saying sumangali need not keep fast on ekadasi!). Similarly some arguments on gaya shraddham – once this is done, varshika shraddam need not be done and we then consult and get stuck with wrong argument and stop doing things.  The way to overcome this is to be ever in the company of jnanis / satsangam.
5. Madham can be of 4 types of pride / ego – vidhya madham (due to knowledge), dhana madham (due to wealth), aabhijaata madham (due to birth) and aabhirupya madham (due to our looks and beauty).  This Is fuelled further by the admiration / praise / pughaz we receive, which leads to us to misuse – “durupayogam” This durupayogam happens due to svaroopa gyanam not being there.  The way to overcome is to make it to sathupayogam (and thereby svaroopa gyanam prevails)
So when we receive pughaz how to convert to sadhupayogam – by being a good person, (padichavar thane 😊, nalla jaati ullavar thane, nalla dhanikar thane, nalla roopam udayavar thane…)
6. Maathsaryam – not able to see others happy – “nanna irukkarathai sahikka mudiyaathu”  Again this owes its birth to Lobham, no belief in satyam and further fuelled by dushta sahavasam. The way to overcome is Guru sushrushai – acharya kainkaryam – sadhu sangamam.   In Thirumaalai alwar says soodhanai – kalvanai.  Soodhanai is when we cheat fellow human beings, Kallvanai is when we cheat HIM self…
Small expl to how not being “satyam” can be a reason – instead of realising that the world is rooted in satyam that contributes to our happiness, we mistakenly think that each of us are well off and happy due to our own efforts and not due to sathyam.
7. Parasutha – “asuya” – create trouble / difficulty to others – born out of again “lobham” fuelled by “abhyasam” – the belief that if I hit then it cuts / destroys / hurts – this is due to agyanam.  We cannot destroy the atma, only the body. Krishna says “na hanyate…” We can overcome when we cultivate “ahimsa” towards all jeeva rashi – empathy for others – kripa daya anukampa… in manam, mozhi, mei. (including ill treatment to cattles/ other living beings, having non – veg, etc)
8. Vidhitsa – non-belief in vedam – born out of engagement with nastika / veda kudhrishti / veda bahyargal.  This is fuelled by our dehatma abhimanam.  We can overcome by pursuing tattva gyanam – chit achit and ishwaran. 
In Thirumaalai alwar says he will not engage with veda bahyargal – pulaiarumaakininra poothodusamanamellam, kalaiaru katrumaandhar kaanbaroketparotham..
9. Shokam – born out of fear of losing what we like and / or fear of gaining that which we dislike.  When we live in this fear and love to stay in this state so that we can gain people’s sympathy this grows.  This can be overcome when we come away from it realising that shokam does not yield anything… payan illai ennam.
10. Asooya – jealousy – from near / close ones or from those in same pursuit.  We feel jealous when we feel insufficient in comparison to some one close / in same pursuit.  This is further fuelled by deficient viveka gyanam. (paguthu arivu).  Way to overcome is to see through the futility of it in light of deha atma abhimanam, alpa palam etc.  It is good to compare for gunam instead of comparing wealth an status.  We need to see those superior to us in gunam and imbibe cultivate and grow.  When we see wealth and status instead of comparing with those above, compare with those below and how better off we are.  (In actual we tend to do the reverse ie compare wealth and status with people above and gunam with people below..)
11. Ninda – born out of company of people of low thoughts – being in the company of people using bad words, using bad thoughts, fuelling bad thoughts. It grows when we think that our ninda makes the victim sorry / feel bad / dukham, but do not realise that it creates only virodham.  Sathsangam is the cure for this.  If we are in the sathsangam we will naturally be compelled to behave in a sath way and not do nindai.  Even in our household we should bring in more sath vartai and chintanai as against loukikam and low thoughts.
12. Dosha darshanam – think we have every right to find fault with others.  This is born out of the thought that we will find fault -> take steps to correct the person and then earn repute.  This repute will fan the fault finding mission and attitude.  We have not been given any right to find fault 😊 in fact only three persons can find fault – Yama, Piratti and Emberuman.  IN actual except them all others find fault  😊.  The way to overcome is when we realise finding fault is “bhagavata apacharam” (please note that who is a bhagavata is decided by Emberuman and not by us – meaning everyone is a bhagavata..)
13. Karvi thanam – miserliness grows due to mamta karam fuelled by seemingly growing the wealth to the misers.  Developing a dharmic buddhi will lead us to surmount this.  Ahamkaram is due to dehatma abhimanam, Mamakaram is due to Karvi (I as the doer).  Being wealthy is not wrong, but being miserly is.   Satvika dhaanam is very important.